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Harriet Frew Therapist
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I used to be a champion at suppressing my feelings. Outwardly, I felt I had it all together and was a master at presenting an outer front of contentment and ease as I approached life challenges. ⚡️⚡️⚡️ I was the happy go lucky; so easy to get along with; placating Pollyanna who just got on with life and never felt angry, sad or let down. Now don’t get me wrong, I have been blessed with a pretty glass half full approach to life, but I was absolutely not this person wholeheartedly. I was in denial to a whole part of my authentic self! ⚡️⚡️ The problem) with NOT acknowledging your true feelings is that they don’t just go away. They build up under the carpet to produce a pretty big pile of unacknowledged fury or upset. One day you might find yourself suddenly feeling overwhelmed with sadness, anger or anxiety in relation to something you might consider to be quite a small trigger, but the floodgates open and stored emotions flow from months of stifling them away. ⚡️⚡️ 5 WAYS TO TAP INTO FEELINGS AND BECOME CLOSER TO THE REAL YOU 1️⃣ Start a journal. This can be a place just for you to write down everything and anything in an uncensored way. As you do this, you will start to gain clarity and understanding of your inner world. 2️⃣ Open up to someone who you can trust to listen and accept your feelings without judgement. Sometimes our closest friends and family members are not able to do this. With good intentions, they have an agenda for us and might want to direct or persuade us in a certain way. Choose the trusted person carefully. 3️⃣ Sometimes you might find it much easier to describe feelings through pictures or language than actually using ‘feeling words’. 4️⃣ Notice how you feel in your body. When you really mean YES, then you might feel more energised; more excited; more alert. When you say YES but you mean NO your body might feel heavy and a sense of dread may loom in your stomach. This is different for everybody and you will need to become accustomed to your inner cues. 5️⃣Take time to pay attention to your inner world. If you are busy, busy, busy, then feelings don’t really get a look in. You may well be missing out on valuable intuition!
THE PRESSURE TO GET YOUR BODY BACK AFTER BIRTH. ⚡️⚡️ You have carried your baby for 9 months and for thousands of steps. You have gone through labour; oh so aptly named! Your body feels bashed, stretched, worn out and exhausted. Your tummy may have that rounded look of an early pregnancy (or more), and for many women this is not their best moment of body confidence. But maybe for a little while, this all blurs into insignificance as you hold your beautiful new born in your arms. ⚡️⚡️ However, within hours of giving birth, women can feel under incredible pressure to lose the baby weight and get back in their jeans. Haunted by the images of perfection slashed across the press, it is easy to see why. Rather than simply concentrating on being a Mum and letting your body recover, there is a relentless pressure to get your body back again. Mums commonly are breastfeeding not only to nourish their newborn but also as a means of weight loss. They might also be missing meals; going for endless walks with the pram to burn off extra calories; then doing sit-ups at midnight all before collapsing into bed with exhaustion, to repeat it all again the following day. Phew I feel tired writing it! ⚡️⚡️ For the majority of women these regimes are not sustainable and come at a cost. Tiredness, irritability and feelings of being overwhelmed are all too common when trying to achieve these goals and look after a baby. The flip side to this intense control can often lead to emotional and compulsive eating as a stance against deprivation. When you are feeling particularly exhausted and emotional food can provide that quick comfort and self-care that is so often lacking in those early baby days. For a few short minutes, you can escape the treadmill of life and have a little bit of ‘me time’ through eating. You might be standing at the fridge munching whatever is in sight; emptying the biscuit tin or finishing the children’s food. This happiness is short lived and soon afterwards, feeling of guilt, shame and body self-loathing can surface. This is followed by the renewed determination to restrict again and the destructive cycle is repeated again. Link in bio for how to break cycle ⬆️
‘FEELING FAT’ is not a feeling. Fat is not a feeling; although you might often find yourself believing the contrary. ‘Feeling fat’ and ‘being fat’ are two entirely different things all together. ‘Feeling fat’ often has very little to do with body size or shape; rather it is more often an expression that something in our world isn’t right – instead of dealing with the problem, you might direct this onto your body. ⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️ So what else can ‘feeling fat’ mean? ⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️ 1️⃣I FEEL FAT. I feel insecure. I am comparing myself to my friend and feel I fall short. ⚡️⚡️ 2️⃣ I FEEL FAT. I feel let down. Someone has disappointed me. ⚡️⚡️⚡️ 3️⃣ I FEEL FAT. I think I should be perfect. I am not a size X and eternally youthful. ⚡️⚡️⚡️ 4️⃣ I FEEL FAT. I have unrealistic expectations. I am not meeting my work deadlines. ⚡️⚡️⚡️ 5️⃣ I FEEL FAT. I have broken a dietary rule. I feel I should be avoiding carbs and I’ve given in. ⚡️⚡️⚡️ 6️⃣ I FEEL FAT. I am anxious about others judging my body. I am going swimming on Friday and I am worried about revealing my body. ⚡️⚡️⚡️ 7️⃣ I FEEL FAT. I feel angry and upset. I just wish they’d listen to me. ⚡️⚡️⚡️ 8️⃣ I FEEL FAT. I feel disappointed. I really wanted her to include me. I feel left out. ⚡️⚡️⚡️ 9️⃣ I FEEL FAT. I feel ashamed. I have no self-control around eating and no-one knows. ⚡️⚡️⚡️ 🔟 I FEEL FAT. I feel guilty. I should be doing more at home. ⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️ So next time you find yourself ‘feeling fat’, take a pause. What is it really about? Try not to waste time directing the problem towards your body. Dieting, losing weight, body obsessions are not going to solve these deeper issues. At least not for very long! ⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️
Clients often ask me, ‘How can I avoid bingeing when the urge to reach for food feels so incredibly strong?’ ⚡️⚡️ I think that sometimes when you reach this point, you have already mentally made the decision to binge and it is infinitely harder to make the U-turn and withdraw. This is not the time when rational thought or reasoned logic generally wins the day. ⚡️⚡️ More helpfully, it is useful to retrace your steps and recognise the triggers that might have contributed to this need to binge. Why? Because, I believe that binges do not come out of the blue. If you look a little below the surface and start to consider possible triggers and situations that may have cumulatively led you to this point, you begin to gain some clarity. ⚡️⚡️ 3 common triggers for bingeing: ⚡️⚡️ 1️⃣You are depriving yourself with your eating You might be following a set of rules rather than listening to what your body wants to eat; for example ‘I shouldn’t eat at this time; no carbs allowed; X number of calories per day). Deprivation only works for so long before your body comes back fighting. Just as our ancestors would have feasted after the famine, your instinct after depriving yourself will be to eat and eat and compensate for the previous lack. ⚡️⚡️ 2️⃣You are slogging away at life too much Maybe your expectations are incredibly high. You might be a perfectionist, you might feel quite guilty if you sit down and relax. As human beings, for mental well-being, we need breaks, relaxation, pleasure and fun dispersed between the jobs and obligations. When you don’t allow these necessaries into your life, then you are going to feel tired, possibly bored and bit jaded with your work. You will then tempted to perk yourself up with food. ⚡️⚡️ 3️⃣You are struggling to manage how you are feeling Maybe you feel that you are sensitive and that things affect you deeply. Joyful news can be as overwhelming sometimes as dealing with life’s little knocks, setbacks and problems. Food can be an effective distraction and a way of dissociating from your feelings for a temporary period, allowing you relief and comfort. These feelings do not go away though and you likely feel worse after a binge. ⚡️⚡️
If you’re a sensitive person like me, you know that life sometimes feels overwhelming. When you’re tired, you’re really tired. When you haven’t eaten for a few hours, you’re really hungry. When something bad happens to you, it might weigh on you for days or weeks — and when everyone else is telling you to move on and get over it, you’re still turning the event over and over. ⚡️ It’s easy to focus only on the difficult aspects of being sensitive. There are also real advantages too. Here are a few: ⚡️ 1. We’re able to process material to deeper levels. We relate and compare what we notice to our past experience with other similar things. We process information in what psychologists call “semantic memory,” which is a type of long-term memory that deals with meanings, understandings, and other concept-based knowledge. ⚡️ 2. We’re able to learn something new without being aware we have learned. We’re intuitive, which means we can pick up and work through information in a semiconscious or unconscious way. We may suddenly just “know” the answer to a problem, without knowing how we know. Our intuition may seem like a “sixth sense.” ⚡️ 3. We’re highly conscientious. We’re more likely to be considerate and show good manners — and we’re more likely to notice when someone else isn’t being conscientious. In a crowded public space, we might be more aware of where we’re standing or where we’re placing our belongings, to make sure we’re not getting in someone else’s way. ⚡️ 4. We have high levels of empathy, and we’re deeply moved by other people’s emotions. We’re aware of other people’s moods and intentions, and we may actually feel another person’s emotions ourselves to some extent. ⚡️ 5. We think about our own thinking more. This is not self-centered. What it means is we are more aware of and better able to talk about our own inner reflections and musings. We may reflect on how something went wrong to help us avoid a similar mistake in the future. Sensitive people are too often perceived as weaklings or damaged goods. To feel intensely is not a symptom of weakness, it is the trademark of the truly alive and compassionate. 💚🌟
5 ways to embrace friendship and feel connected with others 1️⃣ Sometimes, you can wait for what feels like a lifetime for other people to reach out to you. To gain a friend, you need to be a friend first. Take the risk to connect. Invite someone for coffee or suggest a meeting. You may also need to step out of your usual social comfort zone. ⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️2️⃣See yourself as someone with plenty to offer others. I always tend to assume that other people will like me. This is probably not always true by any means, but this belief enables me to reach out, smile, give compliments, to engage and to be genuinely interested in others. If you approach people in this way, they often will reciprocate. ⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️. 3️⃣Try not to assume that other people have it all sussed out. It really is not true. Everyone has their own troubles and difficulties at times. If things look too perfect from the outside, I would probably question that. As you begin to share your life and open up to others, it is a real sense of relief and joy to know that they experience the same things too. ⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️4️⃣If you are feeling down and disconnected in your relationships, then no amount of external fixing is probably going to make you feel better. Trying to change your body, spending money, drinking alcohol or putting all your energy into your career: these may all leave you feeling a bit empty and lost. Be aware if you are trying to fill a void that may be better filled through your relationships. This could be a starting point for change. ⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️ 5️⃣Sometimes, you might feel really stuck with this issue. You may feel a deep sense of shame or feel inherently flawed inside. Possibly, you may have had experiences in your earlier life that have influenced your ability to trust or feel safe to open up and be yourself. This then might be the time to consider getting some support in therapy.
Being thin or losing weight was never the core issue for me, at least not initially. ⚡️⚡️ This is often a surprise because aren’t eating disorders all about size? ⚡️⚡️ Yes and no. Robust self esteem is definitely a protective factor against the cultural pressure of thin. It helps you put 2 fingers up to it; to question it and to not feel you must conform. ⚡️⚡️ If you’re feeling more pressure to conform, you may need to consider WHY you don’t feel good enough deep down? ⚡️⚡️ It’s often rooted in early life. ⚡️⚡️ Good enough parenting helps with self esteem. ⚡️⚡️ Parents who love you genuinely without heaping on their expectations will help a lot. ⚡️⚡️ Parents and caregivers who listen to your feelings and listen to you helps too. ⚡️⚡️ Not being abused or neglected is of course going to help matters also. ⚡️⚡️ The environment also impacts Eg: Actors, dancers etc will feel the pressure to be thin more. ⚡️⚡️ Bullying or friendship difficulties impacts self esteem negatively. ⚡️⚡️ Having therapy can help you unravel the roots of the problem. You need to get underneath the symptoms to understand WHY. A good therapist can also work with you on the symptoms simultaneously. ⚡️⚡️ In therapy, we can often be reluctant to explore the past - naturally, we want solutions and quick fixes. We want some kind of advice that can just make it all better. ⚡️⚡️ Although therapy wasn't always easy for me at the time, it helped me change for the better and value myself wholly rather than based on what I felt others wanted. ⚡️⚡️ Recovery is possible! Never give up.
Where would I be without my friends? If I am feeling a bit blue, the immediate way to bring a smile to my face and a glow to my heart is thinking about my friends. 💚⚡️⚡️🌟⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️ I think of E, who I met at primary school and shared the wonders and magic of our childhood imaginations. K, the person I talked to about every intricate detail regarding boyfriends (or lack of them), and the possibilities of our future as we pushed impatiently towards adulthood. At the time, these conversations seemed so poignant and meaningful; the excitement and anticipation about what lay ahead. Then A, probably my closest friend to this day, who I’ve travelled with; poured my heart out to during numerous life crises and shared so many joyful memories on my life journey so far.⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️. My friends have always reflected back the shiner version of myself; they see my qualities, my strengths, they are my encouragers and cheerleaders and help celebrate life’s little victories and special moments. ✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨ But what if you feel you haven’t got close friends? Many of my own clients will frequently talk about an aching loneliness and the feeling of being disconnected from loved ones. You might feel incredibly isolated and that no-one really knows what is going on for you. You may also feel that you would be burdening others if you expressed your innermost thoughts. ✨✨🌟🌟✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨ A common pattern is thinking that other people are ‘sorted’. They look outwardly happy: financially free, with an abundance of friends, heaps of confidence and a raging social life. What could you possibly add to the mix you wonder? You feel down on yourself, uninteresting and anxious when you think about being more social. You might also feel a sense of shame, feeling inadequate and inferior to others, so you hold back and protect yourself, from possible rejection or judgement. ⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️Tomorrow I will be shattering some of these friendship assumptions and talk about how to forge strong friendships, even if you are feeling lonely now.
I can be vulnerable to pushing myself too hard. ⚡️⚡️ It is so easy to strive and overwork. ⚡️⚡️ The culture almost praises this - we wear a badge of honour to our long hours and constant busyness. ⚡️⚡️ School sets us up from a young age with exams and constant assessments. ⚡️⚡️ So many expectations from all angles and all amplified under the social media spotlight. ⚡️⚡️ It doesn't mean that it is right though. ⚡️⚡️ If you find yourself striving so hard, what is it all about? ⚡️⚡️ Maybe your sense of worth is strongly linked to your productivity output or body shape? ⚡️⚡️ Maybe you only feel good enough if you are doing, doing, doing? ⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️ If you recognise yourself here, take a step back. ⚡️⚡️⚡️✨✨✨✨✨ Appreciate that constant striving is not the answer for good wellbeing and mental health. It can become a treadmill that never satisfies, but demands more. ⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️ We all need to feel okay for just being sometimes, rather than doing. ⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️ We need to practice self compassion and self care. And to realise that achievement is still entirely possibly simultaneously. 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟 #eatingdisorder #edrecovery #eatingdisordertherapy #counsellor #counselling #bodyimage #anorexiarecovery #bulimiarecovery #bingeeating #bingeeatingrecovery #selfesteem #bodypositivity #selfcare #loveyourself #anorexia #bulimia #bingeeating #mentalhealth #eatingdisordersupport #eatingdisorderprevention #thoughts #improvemood #therapist #emotionaleating #emotionaleatingexpert #healthywomeno #womenempoweringwomen #womensupportingwomen #beatbingeeating #stopthebinge
So what’s the difference between NHS therapy for eating disorders versus private practice ?✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨1️⃣Here I am in my private practice earlier today. Starting on a superficial note - sorry NHS, the decor is decidedly better here. Clients can immediately feel at home and hopefully a bit more relaxed. Funds do not stretch to fluffy carpets, pretty lamps and soft furnishings where I work in the NHS! !2️⃣ NHS resources are limited. I work much more with patients with severe anorexia nervosa, whereas in private practice, clients more regularly present with bulimia or binge eating disorder. More NHS help is definitely needed for supporting all eating disorders. 3️⃣ Team working is all part of the game in the NHS and this is valuable to have the support of my lovely work colleagues. Private practice is more lonesome, but being a bit of an introvert, I also like the peace and quiet of this. 4️⃣ Motivational interviewing therapy is a bigger part of NHS work, as clients are often understandably in two minds about change. In private practice, clients feel more ready to engage. ✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨So what are your experiences of private versus NHS therapy? Do you have any tips for finding the right therapist to support you? ✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨ #eatingdisorder #edrecovery #eatingdisordertherapy #counsellor #counselling #bodyimage #anorexiarecovery #bulimiarecovery #bingeeating #bingeeatingrecovery #selfesteem #bodypositivity #loveyourself #anorexia #bulimia #bingeeating #mentalhealth #eatingdisordersupport #eatingdisorderprevention #thoughts #therapist #emotionaleating #emotionaleatingexpert #nhs #cpft #womenempoweringwomen #womensupportingwomen #beatbingeeating #instatherapy @cpft_nhs @welldoinguk
WHY I DO WHAT I DO It had taken a while to build up confidence. ⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️ I was scared of being open and talking about my struggles. ✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨ I plucked up the courage to see my Doctor. Within 2 minutes of the consultation, I was in floods of tears. I felt ashamed of the eating disorder and the cycles of restriction, bingeing and purging. I desperately wanted help. ⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️ There wasn't help. There was nothing available. The local service had closed. I was distraught. I didn't know what to do next. I couldn't see a way out. I had my eating disorder for 7 years - I believe the duration could have been shortened by getting the right help earlier. ⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️ That moment at the GP Surgery was defining for me - I decided that I would help others and make a difference in this field. Even though then, I didn't know how to help myself. I definitely started my journey on this road as the wounded healer! ⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️ We know that early intervention is key in treating eating disorders. The longer you have an ed, the more it can become a habit and part of your identity. ⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️ Do seek help. Don't wait. You can recover from an eating disorder. Stay hopeful. ✨✨✨✨✨✨✨🌟✨✨🌟🌟✨✨🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟 #eatingdisorder #edrecovery #eatingdisordertherapy #counsellor #counselling #bodyimage #anorexiarecovery #bulimiarecovery #bingeeating #bingeeatingrecovery #selfesteem #bodypositivity #selfcare #therapistslife #anorexia #bulimia #bingeeating #mentalhealth #eatingdisordersupport #eatingdisorderprevention #thoughts #improvemood #therapistsofinstagram #emotionaleating #emotionaleatingexpert #instatherapy #womenempoweringwomen #womensupportingwomen #beatbingeeating #stopthebinge
I used to feel so guilty for feeling anything that might upset others or rock the boat. I look back and see what a ridiculous way this was to try and live. I ended up not knowing myself at all. It was completely unachievable and of course really made no one happy. There were huge costs to my mental wellbeing! 🙁🙁 ✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨Thankfully this is no longer true for me and having my own therapy was a big stepping stone in changing this. 😊✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨ Eating disorder behaviours are often a way of unconsciously dealing with difficult emotions. Through bingeing or restricting, you might feel temporary distraction or relief from your feelings. Counselling offers a safe place to explore these feelings without judgement. For mental well-being it is important to be able to deal with emotions effectively and to learn better coping strategies for when we feel distressed or anxious. Recovery is possible. Never give up. 😊 ✨✨✨✨✨⚡️✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨⚡️✨✨ #eatingdisorder #edrecovery #eatingdisordertherapy #counsellor #counselling #bodyimage #anorexiarecovery #bulimiarecovery #bingeeating #bingeeatingrecovery #selfesteem #bodypositivity #selfcare #therapistsofinstagram #anorexia #bulimia #bingeeating #mentalhealth #eatingdisordersupport #eatingdisorderprevention #thoughts #improvemood #therapistslife #emotionaleating #emotionaleatingexpert #instatherapy #womenempoweringwomen #womensupportingwomen #beatbingeeating #stopthebinge
Apples today as was not in a selfie mood! This is not about apples though! ⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️Instead, thinking about challenging thoughts and how therapy can help. ✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨THOUGHTS: with your mind channelling 60,000 thoughts a day and many being repetitive, you can understand the power of your thinking. 😯😯When you have an eating disorder, your thoughts will be dominated by food, weight and shape concerns. You might also experience anxiety around these issues and your thoughts might feel wildly out of control. ⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️. A therapist can help you work with your thoughts, firstly to develop awareness of them; and then to be more accepting of these, as just thoughts. ✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨You can also be taught to challenge unhelpful thoughts with more rational alternatives. ✨✨✨✨✨✨✨ Working on your thoughts can improve wellbeing and help with recovery! ✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨ #eatingdisorder #edrecovery #eatingdisordertherapy #counsellor #counselling #bodyimage #anorexiarecovery #bulimiarecovery #bingeeating #bingeeatingrecovery #selfesteem #bodypositivity #selfcare #loveyourself #anorexia #bulimia #bingeeating #mentalhealth #eatingdisordersupport #eatingdisorderprevention #thoughts #improvemood #therapist #emotionaleating #emotionaleatingexpert #healthywomeno #womenempoweringwomen #womensupportingwomen #beatbingeeating #stopthebinge
Have you heard of @welldoinguk ? 🌟🌟Finding a therapist can be an overwhelming prospect. If you are seeking help. Welldoing.org can match you with the right therapist for you. 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟They also have loads of brilliant articles about mental health and wellbeing. 🌟🌟🌟✨🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟They are now sharing resources specific to your region. Here is a post about Cambridge - a beautiful city, but a place often plagued with perfectionism and anxiety in the high achieving university environment. Link in bio ⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨#studentmentalhealth #cambridge #cambridgeuniversity #mentalhealth #angliaruskinuniversity @louisechunn #welldoing.org #perfectionism #anxiety #eatingdisorders #studentsresources @cambridgeuniversity @angliaruskin #instatherapy
The power of writing things down! 🌟🌟SELF-AWARENESS: some therapists use diary tools to help you increase awareness of your eating patterns, feelings and thoughts, and how these affect one another. The diary can help you have a birds-eye view, looking down on your life. You begin to recognise triggers for bingeing or restricting, developing an understanding of your coping strategies. ✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨Why not give it a go? Get yourself a beautiful and inspiring notebook; start jotting down your thoughts; record goals; notice patterns; improve self awareness and understand yourself better! It can be a powerful tool for change. 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️ #eatingdisorder #edrecovery #eatingdisordertherapy #counsellor #counselling #bodyimage #anorexiarecovery #bulimiarecovery #bingeeating #bingeeatingrecovery #selfesteem #bodypositivity #selfcare #loveyourself #anorexia #bulimia #bingeeating #mentalhealth #eatingdisordersupport #eatingdisorderprevention #thoughts #improvemood #therapist #emotionaleating #emotionaleatingexpert #healthywomeno #womenempoweringwomen #womensupportingwomen #beatbingeeating #stopthebinge
Can therapy help with SELF-ESTEEM? ✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨If you have an eating disorder, your self-worth will likely be predominantly based on your body shape or weight. When you are doing ‘well’ you will feel good (or a bit better) about your body. When you are feeling out of control with food, you may feel guilty, anxious and ashamed. ⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️🌟⚡️🌟⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️Therapy can help you to value yourself for more than your body size. This may be hard at first, as you are possibly your own worst critic; and you may have relied on manipulation of your weight as a way of boosting self-esteem. ⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️Beginning to value yourself for your many other attributes and to be kinder in your self-evaluation, allows self-esteem to be slowly re-built. ⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️ Recovery is possible! Never give up.
How can therapy help you overcome an eating problem, when you’re not even sure you want to give it up? ✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨ AMBIVALENCE: it is likely that you might feel in two minds about change. One part of you desperately wants to move on and let go of a destructive relationship with food and your body. However, another part of you just can’t. This can feel confusing as your feelings about the eating disorder might vary day-by-day or hour-by-hour. ✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨ Your therapist can help you explore this ambivalence and recognise what the eating disorder means to you. Maybe it is a way of coping with difficult feelings? Maybe it is a way of trying to control your weight? Maybe it is deeply familiar and offers safety and reassurance? ✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨ In therapy, you can gain greater understanding about your ambivalence, and this can put powerful building blocks in place for change.✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨ So even if you don’t feel motivated, give therapy a go!